“Don’t self-destruct.” This is something that I likely would have gotten very defensive of if someone told me this 10 years ago. But, it doesn’t have to be that dramatic.
As we grow and heal, we learn that a lot of our tendencies are due to survival skills we’ve taught ourselves. Perhaps from traumas from childhood or past relationships, we learn a way to get through it the best way we can (which a lot of the time isn’t all that well, but it works), and then even when we grow out of those circumstances and situations, those survival skills remain. It’s not intentional, it’s just human nature instincts to do so.
But, why do we feel we have to do it all on our own? Were we put in isolating situations? Did we not trust the people around us so we kept our survival to ourselves? Did you look around and not see anyone, so figured we were alone in our existence?
Well, those could all be valid but don’t have to be our forever truths. We can look a little bit outside of the box that we have been in and reach out. We are communal creatures, and don’t prove anything to anyone by trying to get through things on our own. It’s only a path of more resistance.
I feel that society teaches us to handle what we can on our own and not burden other people. Whenever we hear that someone is “in need” or that “help is available” it’s always focused of situations when someone has already reached their limit. They are so sick and no doctor’s can help. They are so hungry, they can’t get their own resources. They are so low, it can become dangerous. This topic is getting better with more awareness, but a lot of the time it’s still not advertised to get help before you’ve hit your lowest point.
You don’t have to do anything alone, and it’s ok to ask for help. Help doesn’t have to mean you are dire, it can just mean that you could use some support… like we all do. There is always someone out there that has or is going through the same thing as you. We are all always growing, and are in need of healing, and people naturally are there for each other. If you think of any natural disaster, people come together. They help each other, and support each other. They find solutions together for the greater good so that it benefits everyone.
Whether you just need a self-care day, a healing session, or just know that there’s someone that is willing to support you, don’t wait to ask. Get what you want, get what you need, because you being genuinely stable, happy, and healed only trickles into the world to make it a better place.
You are never alone. Remember that.